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Miss_Kytt 34F
628 posts
4/21/2018 11:49 am
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Attraction is a complex beast usually reserved for the aesthetically minded in all humans. Certain traits are considered more desirable than others, some people want an hourglass figure showing off what is stereotypically feminine, some people want taught figures called 'boyish', some want to be able to see abdominal muscles clearly through skin, some prefer fuller figures and some people find anything aesthetic boring.

It would be a lie to say that aesthetics played no part in decisions, a disingenuous lie at that, no one human can say that they don't care about looks when it comes to attraction but what they can do is lie to another human about how important, or not, they are, especially regarding aspects of another that they are conscious about, they are there to provide a sense of security even if that is indeed a false one, and this lie is accepted by both parties as a sign of caring - To care is to 'fib' to one another, to gloss over the parts of each other that make them conscious, to dispel the fears of being undesirable because of something that takes time to change when more effort is put into disliking it due to pressure to conform than effort to be happy and content, both aspirations these days rather than a state of being.

True attraction runs so deep that nothing can influence its impact, not age, not gender, not size, not shape, not race, not creed, not ability nor disability, nothing has the power over true attraction to change how two people feel about each other because they have connected on a level where they simply get each other - Understanding each others wants, needs or desires runs through each of them on a level where they don't need to necessarily be spoken, they don't have to have long conversations about life, they simply know and nothing will alter that even if they aren't together.

Distance doesn't affect deep attraction in the same way that it affects aesthetic attraction, it seems a more simplified version where it can be easily replaced by someone of equal aesthetic pleasure and can be repeated as many times as necessary until the desired effect is reached - It's unlikely that two people who have a deep attraction to one another would find someone who can replicate that feeling so easily, not that it takes time or indeed effort to obtain such a bond, but that it is so specific that at times it becomes almost impossible to pin down what it is that brings them together when asked to explain to others.

No one should have to explain their preferences as if giving an alibi to court, there should be no need to be cross examined by another as if a crime had been committed, there should be no need to form a defense to justify the bond between two people and there should never be a criminal conviction hanging over any bodies head concerning the person they feel most at ease with.

KinkyA 62M

4/21/2018 12:57 pm

So very true.....Thank you x


MissLadywood 51F
6195 posts
4/22/2018 6:45 am

A wonderful post and so very true.
Thank you

Life So Short, The Craft So Long To Learn


steelcager 61M
1996 posts
4/23/2018 12:32 am

The human brain is incredibly complex, we are all different and like different things. Even twins with identical DNA will have different tendencies.



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