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rosaenaluin 65F
9837 posts
9/20/2018 12:12 pm
mental cases, II.


Or not so much amental cases but just men who are maybe socially a bit ackward...

This guy, we mailed, we chat, so we decide there must be a meeting, because the online talk was not enough...

I go by train to Amsterdam, he is too late.....

( i hate it when people are too late..)

Cant you plan your trip? Your time?
Dont you think my time is as available as yours?
Anyway, we go have some coffee, in the Toerist Office...

There is an other thing i have difficulty accepting....

When meeting a socalled prospect "dom".... in his town....?
I think it is reasonable to expect he knows the way to a nice easy restaurant?
he checked the place out??
not so!

Or did i expect too much? humanity? decency?

Anyway, we sit down, order something to drink, look at each other for the first time, real looking...
Then he says to me; God thanks, you dont have a moustache ...
because all women around 40ish get all moustache....

I LOVE guys who are soo full of all kind of assumptions!
I really do! that means, most of the time, i know enough...
... a bedroomplayer........

I was flabbergasted by so much rudeness, if it was true or not...
social ackward?
just plain rudeness?
did not learn any manners from his mommy and daddy?
Too nervous to think straight?

By hindsight, i think he did not expect to meet a woman who did not just follow him
,
but took the lead, since he did not take any initiative....

I think he was in some kind of porn mode, expecting me to bow my head,
dont look him in the eyes, kind of braindead sponse....

I think i was some kind of shock for him, because i started the conversation, wanted to know all kind of things about him...
i think he was also flabbergasted out of his porn invested fantasy cloud... hahhaha
poor man!

He was not a mental/nut case,
He was JUST rude.
No dominance material present.

rosaenaluin 65F
10779 posts
9/20/2018 12:16 pm

What i learned to call; bedroomplayers.

That is just fine, if that is what you are looking for...

Not my taste.


Gowron 69M
3086 posts
9/20/2018 12:58 pm

A bad start to a relationship. The bright side: except for this one meeting, you didn't invest time and effort only to be disappointed later. You saw things as they were up front.


rosaenaluin 65F
10779 posts
9/20/2018 2:12 pm

We are all just one second away from disaster... by one bad desision,
believe me, i know.
everyone is just one bad luck moment away from all kind of missery...
To become a homeless person.... or all the things you mentioned....
Thank you,


rosaenaluin 65F
10779 posts
9/21/2018 1:04 am

Gowron, thank you,

This is exemplarisch to all the contacts i have had, over the years now...


rosaenaluin 65F
10779 posts
9/21/2018 1:12 pm

Yes, and being ackward does not make that person a bad dom, just ackward...

You are missing the point, wanted to show, that being ackward does not make you a nutcase, or a fake, or a bad sub.....at all....

There is a distinct difference in nutcase creep behaviour and just being social ackward...

You must understand that the amount of 'natural' dominants are far less, who long for a Long Term Master-save relation...

then the men who just want some kinky funplay in the bedroom and calling that being dominant.... a sexual/ service dominant....
Wanting a equal relation outside the bedroom and only d/s on the sex level...

For the first group the pond is very small, for the latter there is more then enough fish in the pond... enough choice.....

Finding just that match...is like a miracle....



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