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Advice Lines Question by barryj43
barryj43 80 M
78 questions
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Blogging - 5/18/2013

For some reason I can't add a post to my blog. Are standard members no longer allowed to blog..

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barryj43 80 M
78 questions
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Bondage techniques. - 8/20/2011

I am looking for some new and inovative bondage techniques. What is your favorite means of tieing up your submissive that leaves all the goodies exposed for ones use.

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barryj43 80 M
78 questions
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Improvising.by making toys out of household items - 1/24/2009

Has anyone made a new and inventive BDSM toy out of something laying around the house, basement or garage lately.

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barryj43 80 M
78 questions
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sound - 11/12/2008

I recently purchased an electrical sound for my bottom and decided i should give it a try first to see what the effects are. I must say that while it is in use it is a most interesting sensation but

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barryj43 80 M
78 questions
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Technical question - 9/29/2008

Noticed a couple of days ago that the word I used on my blogs to describe my mood have been turned into a number. IS this glitch happening to anyone else or has ALT singled me out. Feeling a little

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barryj43 80 M
78 questions
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Paradise Electro Stimulators / TENS machine - 9/24/2008

Does anyone have any experience with the Paradise Electro Stimulator and it's accessories.

The power box works with a set of 2 leads and requires both be connected. Some of the accessories h

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barryj43 80 M
78 questions
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Edge play and pushing boundaries. - 9/22/2008

Edge play and pushing boundaries.

The term “Safe, sane, consensual play, ” what does it really mean to you.

When do you know if you stepped over the bounds. As sadist is it only onc

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barryj43 80 M
78 questions
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Fantasy fulfilled - 8/17/2008

Have you ever had a BDSM fantasy that has been constantly on your mind and finally got to play it out.

Was it as satisfying as you thought it would be or was it a disappointment?

My

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barryj43 80 M
78 questions
Score 0.0
Consequence BDSM - 8/6/2008

Have you ever played Consequence BDSM with your partner. I love to play this game with my bottom boy.

I'll tie my boy spread eagle, either face up or face down, on the bed so he can move arou

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barryj43 80 M
78 questions
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Binding tape - 8/2/2008

Does anyone know of a good quality tape that will stick to a body but not pluck every hair off of my boy's chest when I it is removed.

I know pulling hair is a nice way of inflicting pain bu

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barryj43 80 M
78 questions
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Turn on - 7/20/2008

What exactly turns you on. Is it the clean boyish/little girl look or the person exuding those raunchy sexual undertones. Is it just a body type or a twinkle in the eye. Perhaps it is a dominant perso

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barryj43 80 M
78 questions
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Tasting your own cum - 7/17/2008

A question on kissing after a BJ got me pondering. I sure everyone out there has masturbated sometime in Their life and I am wondering if most people have never tasted their own cum. Are people so nar

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barryj43 80 M
78 questions
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Cuppiong - 7/10/2008

Does anyone had any experience with cupping. That is applying glass cups to the body and heating them to suck the skin into it. What are the sensation felt is it painful or simply done for decorative

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barryj43 80 M
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Trying to add some spice to my BDSM lifestyle - 7/9/2008

I am looking for some new and innovative way to torture my bottom when he is tied spread eagle to the bed posts. What is your favorite and or nastiest way you torturing your bottom.

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barryj43 80 M
78 questions
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Latest toy purchase - 7/6/2008

I just bought a new spreader bar made of one inch tubular steel. The spreader is adjusted by a screw in eye bolt.

I took one look at in figured the eye bolt would be an ideal location to tie

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barryj43 80 M
78 questions
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Hot wax - 7/5/2008

Planning on starting using hot wax at home vs the public dungeon so this question concerns clean up.

I have a black vinyl sheet so I not worried about wax on sheets etc more interested in so

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barryj43 80 M
78 questions
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Orgasm vs ejulation - 6/19/2008

Orgasm vs ejaculation. Would some male who has orgasms but does not ejaculate please explain the sensation they experience. I always thought they were synonymous.

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barryj43 80 M
78 questions
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New feature on sign in page. - 6/5/2008

Check your profile on the sign in page. A new feature and ALT is putting what ever they want on it. Seem I have turned into a bisexual over night.

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barryj43 80 M
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Consent, control and Trust - 5/8/2008

Veryleggyredhead question on consent got me thinking.

When you play with your regular BDSM play partner. Do you negotiate each scene, discuss hard limits and safe words or is it simply unders

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barryj43 80 M
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We are all on the web - 5/3/2008

Not a question just thought I would let you all know that I googled my ALT handle and found pictures of all the responder there.

You may want to change your main profile picture if you don't

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barryj43 80 M
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Bondage testing - 4/26/2008

Can anyone explain why bottoms or submissives who are into bondage always try to escape their confinement.

Do you think they are they trying to top their Top or is it their way of letting the

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barryj43 80 M
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Altennative life style - 4/26/2008

In your mind does "ALT or alternative life style" mean participating in BDSM, D/s, M/s lifestyle or simple kinky sex.

I read a thread where anyone answering it and defending "ALT" as a BDSM

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barryj43 80 M
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BDSM a fetishes or kink or perversion - 4/18/2008

Definition of fetish from Webster dictionary

1: an object of unreasoning devotion or concern. 2:an object whose real or fantasied presence is psychologically necessary for sexual gratificatio

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barryj43 80 M
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Fetishes - 4/17/2008

Do you have a fetish ? What is it? Are you able to satisfy your desires?

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Dungeon decor - 4/13/2008

When you have play scenes at home, what do you do to to set the mood in the play room.

Do you draw the blinds and darken the room. Perhaps you put the black sheet set on the bed. Light scente

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barryj43 80 M
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The lifestyle - 4/5/2008

How did you get started in the lifestyle.

Was it the result of experimenting on yourself then meeting others with the same interests. Was it self bondage or the desire to inflict a little pai

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barryj43 80 M
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Leather care - 4/4/2008

What do you do to keep your leather toys clean and supple? Any particular product you would recommend and how often do you clean them.

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barryj43 80 M
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Bondage - 4/1/2008

When you started playing with bondage did you start by practice on yourself. Did you practice tying knots by binding your legs or arms together? If you did , did you ever get yourself into a situation

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barryj43 80 M
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What is a real turn on for you. - 3/27/2008

You are standing in a crowded room full of BDSM people.

When checking everyone out, what is the one think that would turn you on to someone over someone else. What will get the juices flowing

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barryj43 80 M
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Whipping - 3/26/2008

Which of the following is your preferred position for buttock whipping and why.

Standing with hands tied overhead. Bent at the waist either over a bench or a knee. Prone position with submis

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